Some of you read this title, saw my name and picture above, and thought, “Another Black man (a Nationalist at that) is bashing Kimberly Foster for her controversial article “Why I Will Not March for Eric Garner.” Foster’s July 22nd article on the forHarriet.com website has sparked the righteous indignation of many in the progressive Black community, and in my opinion, rightly so.
But this is not a feminist-bashing article nor is this a personal attack of Kimberly Foster, who I believe is a conscious and committed Black woman dedicated to exposing and challenging patriarchy while empowering other Black women. This article simply represents my disagreement with the position she’s taken, how she has confused the real issue, and what I believe to be her misguided and divisive approach of galvanizing the Black feminist population by suggesting they not respond to acts of racist violence against Black men simply because some Black men are ignorant sexists. I am not a feminist per se, (the growing trend of Black men openly proclaiming themselves as such annoys me and reeks of self-serving political correctness) but I am a student of the Black experience. And it is in this role that I write.
In her article, which I again encourage you to read for yourself, Foster explains how she finds Eric Garner’s murder via police choke-hold personally disturbing. Look at the incident for yourself and you’ll be disturbed as well (especially when you hear him repeatedly say, “I can’t breathe.”
However, Foster notes that she is equally disturbed by some Black men’s lack of empathy when “Black women attempt to discuss the everyday terrors we experience both in the world and at their hands.”
Her frustration with ignorant Black men that defend patriarchy and insulate themselves from the suffering of our sisters is valid. Such lack of compassion for the oppression of Black women by white or Black men is unacceptable, period. To the same degree that white supremacy conditions most whites to harbor racist attitudes, sexism conditions most men to harbor patriarchal attitudes and/or behavior. Both are reprehensible. So if Foster believes that both men and women should be free from oppression and violence, reasonable minds should agree! However she goes on to make a few statements that are particularly disturbing:
…if the NYPD or the City of New York fail to act, I will not march for Eric Garner. I will not rally for him because I am reserving my mental and emotional energy for the women, the Black women, no one will speak for.
In concluding she notes:
Many women continue to believe that offering unconditional support to the men who dismiss their calls for help will result one day in a return of care–as though they are watering a seed. But I have yet to see the fruit from that tree of hope, and I’m tired of waiting.
So I will mourn Eric Garner and I will cry bitter, broken tears for him, but that is all that I can do.
The problem with her position is obvious. Only narrow and dogmatic ideology cloud the issue here. First of all she is the founder and editor of a website that wants to “raise the level of discourse surrounding Black women,” and that pays tribute to a number of strong and activist Black women including Harriet Tubman, Maya Angelou, Angela Davis, Ella Baker, Fannie Lou Hamer, Septima Clark, Assata Shakur, NIkki Giovanni, Shirley Chisolm, Toni Morrison, Ida B. Wells, and other notables.
From what I know and understand about all of these sisters mentioned, they all understood that Black people were collectively oppressed from within and outside. They all struggled with racism, sexism and class exploitation. And in varying degrees, they all saw Black men as their compatriots and comrades in the struggle, and often fought FOR and WITH them. It would be easy for me to quote various Black feminists to support my argument. But our history itself if far more instructive. For example, Ida B. Wells fought valiantly against the lynching of Black men; Angela Davis challenges sexism while also challenging the disproportionate incarceration of Black and Brown men and women; Assata Shakur fought alongside brothers in the Black Panther Party and Black Liberation Army; Ella Baker mentored young brothers and sisters in SNCC (while challenging Dr. King’s own patriarchy), and the site’s namesake Harriet Tubman worked to help both Black men and women escape the horrors of bondage. Way before the term “feminism” and the first and second wave of the Feminist Movement existed, countless Black women fought to empower themselves and their brethren even while confronting the sexist views and values of those brethren. Fighting patriarchy within the race and fighting white supremacy attacking our race are not mutually exclusive projects! We have indeed reached a tragic moment in our history when we fail to recognize this. Foster’s public decision to do nothing about this incident is both unprecedented and decidedly defeatist.
Secondly, Foster conflates the issues of unbridled police brutality and Black male patriarchy. Try as she might to argue otherwise, these are separate and distinct issues and must be treated as such. She is correct to call brothers out for being backwards and insensitive to how sisters suffer and the roles they may play in that suffering. She should continue to fight for our sisters’ FULL empowerment both in the workforce and at home. Her work in these regards is commendable and there will be times when her voice and perspective causes brothers to feel uncomfortable. If brothers embody and manifest anti-woman values and practices, they should feel uncomfortable!
However she fails to separate one issue from the other and she does this in a way that subtly empowers racist police to continue killing us with impunity! This is simply irresponsible and contradictory for one who considers herself a voice or advocate for the oppressed and marginalized. Rather than employing a weird and apolitical tit-for-tat approach, Foster might have lent her voice and considerable following to a powerful attack/critique of the growing trend of police using tazers, billy clubs, guns, and choke-holds in their interactions with Black PEOPLE.
Lastly, she frames the issue as a dichotomy, as if police assaults do not also occur to Black women. So-called law enforcement agents assault men AND women on city streets and in prisons when I last checked.
Sometimes we become so entrenched in our ideals and isolated in our political bubbles that we forget a simple point: Our political ideologies should identify, critique and resolve conflicts, not compound or ignore them. Neither Foster’s feminist politics, our long tradition of Black feminist activism, or even the deeply entrenched patriarchy of some brothers justifies her apathetic and divisive position in this matter. And all of us, Black feminists included, should unite to intelligently inform our sister that in this matter, she is misguided and on the wrong side of the issue. Those cops that killed brother Eric Garner must be brought to justice, and Black people must organize to prevent such tragedies in the future. And this should be done WHILE addressing the intersecting issues of gender and class. If you are Black and your political ideas don’t bring you to these conclusions, you most likely need new political ideas. Sister Kimberly, don’t allow your bitterness and frustration with some of our ignorant and insensitive brothers to make you ignorant and insensitive as well….
Agyei Tyehimba is an educator, activist and author from Harlem, N.Y. Agyei is a former NYC public schoolteacher, co-founder of KAPPA Middle School 215 in the Bronx, NY, and co-author of the Essence Bestselling book, Game Over: The Rise and Transformation of a Harlem Hustler, published in 2007 by Simon & Schuster. In April of 2014, he released Truth for our Youth: A Self-Empowerment Book for Teens. Agyei has appeared on C-Span, NY1 News, and most recently on the A&E documentary, “The Mayor of Harlem: Alberto ‘Alpo’ Martinez.” Mr. Tyehimba is a professional consultant and public speaker providing political advice and direction for Black college student organizations, community activist groups, and nonprofit organizations. If you are interested in bringing Agyei to speak or provide consultation for your organization, please contact him at email@example.com.